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The Chapman Guide to Solving Conflicts Without Arguing provides a simple blueprint for achieving solutions to everyday disagreements without having to have a "winner" and a "loser." By learning how to listen empathetically, respecting each other's ideas and feelings and understanding why some issues are so important to your spouse, not only will those daily problems be wor The Chapman Guide to Solving Conflicts Without Arguing provides a simple blueprint for achieving solutions to everyday disagreements without having to have a "winner" and a "loser." By learning how to listen empathetically, respecting each other's ideas and feelings and understanding why some issues are so important to your spouse, not only will those daily problems be worked out successfully, but both of you will end up feeling appreciated, respected, and loved.


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The Chapman Guide to Solving Conflicts Without Arguing provides a simple blueprint for achieving solutions to everyday disagreements without having to have a "winner" and a "loser." By learning how to listen empathetically, respecting each other's ideas and feelings and understanding why some issues are so important to your spouse, not only will those daily problems be wor The Chapman Guide to Solving Conflicts Without Arguing provides a simple blueprint for achieving solutions to everyday disagreements without having to have a "winner" and a "loser." By learning how to listen empathetically, respecting each other's ideas and feelings and understanding why some issues are so important to your spouse, not only will those daily problems be worked out successfully, but both of you will end up feeling appreciated, respected, and loved.

30 review for Everybody Wins: The Chapman Guide to Solving Conflicts without Arguing

  1. 5 out of 5

    Kirti Changlani

    Looks like Author was high on Self-promotion when he wrote this. Although he talks about empathy, listening and interpersonal communication - which isn't a new concept today. I appreciate his efforts, as the book was written possibly a decade ago... Maybe it could be helpful for couples, or people who need to be spoonfed over basic things. Looks like Author was high on Self-promotion when he wrote this. Although he talks about empathy, listening and interpersonal communication - which isn't a new concept today. I appreciate his efforts, as the book was written possibly a decade ago... Maybe it could be helpful for couples, or people who need to be spoonfed over basic things.

  2. 4 out of 5

    Melissa Andrews

    I have to facilitate a discussion on conflict resolution for a group I'm a part of (have no idea why as that is definitely not my background or area of expertise). Anyway, I needed to quickly find some stuff to talk about and came across this book. It does a great job, in only 100 pages or so, of laying out reasons why we argue, why arguing without resolution is unhealthy for marriages, and provides a plan for dealing with conflict. It echoes some of the other information I've found as I've been I have to facilitate a discussion on conflict resolution for a group I'm a part of (have no idea why as that is definitely not my background or area of expertise). Anyway, I needed to quickly find some stuff to talk about and came across this book. It does a great job, in only 100 pages or so, of laying out reasons why we argue, why arguing without resolution is unhealthy for marriages, and provides a plan for dealing with conflict. It echoes some of the other information I've found as I've been frantically attempting to pack my brain with enough details to speak 'knowledgeably' about this topic. Solutions/steps Mr. Chapman mentions like empathetic listening, re-stating what you've heard until the other person agrees that you have understood his/her viewpoint, asking clarifying questions and so on all seem to be common 'you need to do these things if you really want to resolve conflicts' across the information I've been reading. I really liked the idea of rating an issue - on a scale of 1-10, how important is this issue to you. I think that can help you/your spouse see whether you are truly passionate about something or whether you really could just let it go. He also doesn't insist that every conflict has to be resolved through compromise - though that is presented as one of the resolution methods. (I liked his suggestion of calling it "meeting in the middle" as opposed to compromising, so that you focus on what you've gained, as opposed to what you had to give up something.) I think every marriage can benefit from the ideas presented in this book - I know I'm planning to put them into practice in mine. Also, although the book is Christian-based (and I am as well), that doesn't detract from it at all. I think the ideas presented would work well for Christians and non-Christians, as the solutions presented don't require that one be a Christian to implement them.

  3. 4 out of 5

    Jennifer Flanders

    Subtitled The Chapman Guide to Solving Conflicts without Arguing, Everybody Wins offers sage advice for married couples who need help learning to fight fairly. In this slim volume, Chapman outlines the principles of conflict-resolution he teaches couples in his counseling practice. Ideally, both husband and wife should read the book and put these concepts into action. But even if only one of them does so, they’ll likely see a reduction in the amount of arguing that takes place at home. Chapman str Subtitled The Chapman Guide to Solving Conflicts without Arguing, Everybody Wins offers sage advice for married couples who need help learning to fight fairly. In this slim volume, Chapman outlines the principles of conflict-resolution he teaches couples in his counseling practice. Ideally, both husband and wife should read the book and put these concepts into action. But even if only one of them does so, they’ll likely see a reduction in the amount of arguing that takes place at home. Chapman stresses the importance of listening with a good attitude and the goal of understanding. Of asking smart questions to clarify what your partner is saying. And of working as a team to resolve conflicts in ways that are mutually agreeable and beneficial. The author draws on a wealth of counseling experience. He cites stories of how clients who were formerly at an impasse were able to successfully find solutions through applying these simple guidelines.

  4. 4 out of 5

    Heather

    Short and sweet and to the point without using all the therapy jargon too! Parts of the book I liked: "Any victory won by means of an argument will be short lived. The loser will eventually come back with a new argument or an old argument restated in an effort to persuade his or her spouse. But the renewed argument will also end with a win, lose or draw verdict. So you see arguments never resolve anything, they only reveal conflicts. Once a conflict is revealed a couple must find a way to resolve Short and sweet and to the point without using all the therapy jargon too! Parts of the book I liked: "Any victory won by means of an argument will be short lived. The loser will eventually come back with a new argument or an old argument restated in an effort to persuade his or her spouse. But the renewed argument will also end with a win, lose or draw verdict. So you see arguments never resolve anything, they only reveal conflicts. Once a conflict is revealed a couple must find a way to resolve it with dignity and respect for the other person." The purpose of this book is to resolve conflict without arguing. Empathetic listening. "The most common mistakes in communication is responding before your spouse has the full picture. This inevitably leads to arguments. Listen for as long as your spouse has something to say. Use clarifying questions to make sure that you understand what he is saying or feeling when your spouse assures you that he or she feels that you understand, THEN is the time you can give your own perspective. "

  5. 4 out of 5

    Nurul Hafidzah Rosli

    I actually learn a lot from this book. I always thought that arguing/fighting is normal for marriages. But then, after reading the book I tried the method. It really work! I now start to listen. Really listen to my husband. Reclarify back, accept the other opinions and finding a solution. Together. I also shared with my husband my input (the book will be dusty and he still and will not gonna read it). Oh, it doesn't have any religion's much input, except the Abraham story, which Muslim also share I actually learn a lot from this book. I always thought that arguing/fighting is normal for marriages. But then, after reading the book I tried the method. It really work! I now start to listen. Really listen to my husband. Reclarify back, accept the other opinions and finding a solution. Together. I also shared with my husband my input (the book will be dusty and he still and will not gonna read it). Oh, it doesn't have any religion's much input, except the Abraham story, which Muslim also shared the same story. So, it's actually applicable to any religious. If you're looking for the light reading, relationship advices - try this one. You won't regret it.

  6. 5 out of 5

    Tiberiu Condulescu

    Small and insightful enough to read on a plane trip from Budapest to Rome and back (or listen to it). The only thing I was sorry about, was starting to read the book so late. It's a perfect summary of Chapman's 5 love languages and a perfect introduction into the topic. Recommend to everyone in and out of a relationship. We take so much for granted and are so deaf to loved ones... this is a game changer. Small and insightful enough to read on a plane trip from Budapest to Rome and back (or listen to it). The only thing I was sorry about, was starting to read the book so late. It's a perfect summary of Chapman's 5 love languages and a perfect introduction into the topic. Recommend to everyone in and out of a relationship. We take so much for granted and are so deaf to loved ones... this is a game changer.

  7. 4 out of 5

    Mary Lou

    The most helpful insight in Gary Chapman’s book, Everybody Wins, is his distinction between arguing and conflict resolution. The book is framed in the context of marriage relationship but the principles are applicable in any relationship. Since conflict is part of life, his approach to conflict resolution can be what saves many marriage and relationships from inevitable disintegration.

  8. 4 out of 5

    Vincent Allen

    A Must Read A must read for all who are married and for those who desire to be married...this is my second full read and I’m going to read it again... Thank you...I use this book when we do pre-marital and marriage intervention... Even after almost 36 years of marriage this book is very helpful and it has provided insight that is so easily overlooked..

  9. 5 out of 5

    Chianna

    [audible] Great book...not married but I think the concepts can be applied to any relationship... I've always liked Gary Chapman, and this book was as good as the love language one. It's not rocket science, but it isn't the default either - I will revisit this one frequently! [audible] Great book...not married but I think the concepts can be applied to any relationship... I've always liked Gary Chapman, and this book was as good as the love language one. It's not rocket science, but it isn't the default either - I will revisit this one frequently!

  10. 5 out of 5

    Lindsay

    This was a good book to listen to about ways to communicate when there is a disagreement with your significant other.

  11. 4 out of 5

    Erik Garcia Perez

    Eye opening!!!! So many things learned that need to be read once more and put in practice every lesson on a day by day basis. Totally worth it.

  12. 5 out of 5

    Greg

    Listen, empathize, and compromise. There you go. Nothing new here.

  13. 4 out of 5

    Jessica Corwin

    Short, sweet + practical tips.

  14. 4 out of 5

    Charmin

    HIGHLIGHTS: 1. When you win an argument, your spouse is the loser. 2. Give your spouse the freedom to think and feel differently. Express respect for other person’s ideas. 3. When husbands and wives understand what their spouses are saying, why an issue is so important to them, how strongly they feel about it, and the emotions that accompany their desires, only then can they have intelligent and loving responses. 4. Arguments accomplish destruction. 5. Finding a winning solution begins by choosing HIGHLIGHTS: 1. When you win an argument, your spouse is the loser. 2. Give your spouse the freedom to think and feel differently. Express respect for other person’s ideas. 3. When husbands and wives understand what their spouses are saying, why an issue is so important to them, how strongly they feel about it, and the emotions that accompany their desires, only then can they have intelligent and loving responses. 4. Arguments accomplish destruction. 5. Finding a winning solution begins by choosing to believe that such a solution is possible and that you and your spouse are smart enough to discover it. 6. Winning Attitudes: respect spouse’s ideas, even if you disagree; Love spouse and do everything you can to help him today; Believe that spouse is my teammate. 7. The goal of a good marriage is for a couple to learn how to work together as a team, utilizing differences to make life better for both spouses. 8. Seek to learn how to make our differences into assets rather than liabilities. 9. Arguments never resolve conflicts, then intensify them. 10. “What I hear you saying is ____. Is that correct?”; “Why is ____ so important to you?”

  15. 5 out of 5

    Rob

    I listened to the audio version of this book. It is a short listen with some good practical examples and principles. I think the principles here are good starters for conflict resolution. There is some parallel (though from a different perspective) between this and "Anger...powerful emotion". Both are good but I think many situations in this book quickly cross over into the Anger book making both of them important resources. I am struck by his clear articulation of where we have problems. Some of t I listened to the audio version of this book. It is a short listen with some good practical examples and principles. I think the principles here are good starters for conflict resolution. There is some parallel (though from a different perspective) between this and "Anger...powerful emotion". Both are good but I think many situations in this book quickly cross over into the Anger book making both of them important resources. I am struck by his clear articulation of where we have problems. Some of the biggest problems are a result of not having proper examples as we mature. Understanding the root cause is only the beginning of recovery and these techniques will take much practice (lifelong practice) to become Christ-like.

  16. 4 out of 5

    Samuel Thrasher

    The conflict resolution skills set forth in this book are wonderfully useful. I know I personally gained a deeper understanding of why listening is so important and the necessity to end conflicts effectively, and necessarily quickly. The points in the book where Chapman chooses to recount dialogue are incredibly hokey, and honestly greatly affected my enjoyment of the book. Overall, it's a good, quick read with a couple of flaws. The conflict resolution skills set forth in this book are wonderfully useful. I know I personally gained a deeper understanding of why listening is so important and the necessity to end conflicts effectively, and necessarily quickly. The points in the book where Chapman chooses to recount dialogue are incredibly hokey, and honestly greatly affected my enjoyment of the book. Overall, it's a good, quick read with a couple of flaws.

  17. 4 out of 5

    Sandie

    This is the 4 th book that I've read by Gary Chapman. The first was the 5 Love Languages, and the other 3 are the Marriage Saver series. In each of the marriage saver books he takes from the 5 love languages and expands on it in each area. I don't know of a married couple who doesn't need to read this book. It's well written, easy to follow, and builds a connection with your spouse through conflict. After I finished this book in Scribd, I ordered it so that I can read it with my husband. This is the 4 th book that I've read by Gary Chapman. The first was the 5 Love Languages, and the other 3 are the Marriage Saver series. In each of the marriage saver books he takes from the 5 love languages and expands on it in each area. I don't know of a married couple who doesn't need to read this book. It's well written, easy to follow, and builds a connection with your spouse through conflict. After I finished this book in Scribd, I ordered it so that I can read it with my husband.

  18. 5 out of 5

    Deborah Day

    This a wonderfully clear and simple book that can help teach couples how to reduce arguments and increase productive discussions. Practice all listening tools that anyone can do if they are willing. A quick read loaded with great information.

  19. 5 out of 5

    Mel Haynie

    Very useful and a quick read. recommend for anyone who is interested in getting out of the "courthouse" and on to real solutions. I would even recommend this to help with interacting with children and teenagers. Very useful and a quick read. recommend for anyone who is interested in getting out of the "courthouse" and on to real solutions. I would even recommend this to help with interacting with children and teenagers.

  20. 4 out of 5

    Natasha M Smith

    Just what I needed Chapman's books are so relatable. I love that he gives examples from real people and real scenarios. He gives advice and exercises that are simple, making it possible to apply them to everyday situations. So helpful! Just what I needed Chapman's books are so relatable. I love that he gives examples from real people and real scenarios. He gives advice and exercises that are simple, making it possible to apply them to everyday situations. So helpful!

  21. 4 out of 5

    Sheilaandrick

    This was a really easy read, and gives a really good way of looking at resolving conflict.

  22. 4 out of 5

    Nurulda Ismail

    It's awesome! really help (to-be) marriage couple how to avoid arguing and both parties win. :) It's awesome! really help (to-be) marriage couple how to avoid arguing and both parties win. :)

  23. 5 out of 5

    Jonathan Friedmann

    This was a good quick read that started several good conversations between me and the wife about conflict. Nothing more; nothing less.

  24. 4 out of 5

    Kathrynn

    A must read for everyone! Short book. Author of "The Five Love Languages" and since I enjoyed that book so much, I picked up this little jewel. Very easy to read. Great advice. A must read for everyone! Short book. Author of "The Five Love Languages" and since I enjoyed that book so much, I picked up this little jewel. Very easy to read. Great advice.

  25. 5 out of 5

    Mai Mazoku

    Great book. It's extremely thin, but says crucial things on how to act during a conflict. Highly recommend not only for married couples, even for singles it's definitely useful. Great book. It's extremely thin, but says crucial things on how to act during a conflict. Highly recommend not only for married couples, even for singles it's definitely useful.

  26. 5 out of 5

    Frans Kempe

    A short but good book about why we argue and how we instead through empathic listening to each other can choose to solve our differences as a team. Short book with a clear message.

  27. 5 out of 5

    Claudia

    Easy to Follow very easy to follow advice! so glad I read it on my Kindle.

  28. 5 out of 5

    Christine

    Can be applied to speaking with people in general.

  29. 5 out of 5

    Eliyahu (Marc)

    This guy is good everything I read of his works! Till I forget it that in :(

  30. 5 out of 5

    Ivy

    Another audio book I powered through at work. The lessons were great, but I wasn't sure that each scenario would play out exactly as offered... Another audio book I powered through at work. The lessons were great, but I wasn't sure that each scenario would play out exactly as offered...

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