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From the New York Times bestselling author of I'm Judging You, a hilarious and transformational book about how to tackle fear--that everlasting hater--and audaciously step into lives, careers, and legacies that go beyond even our wildest dreams. Luvvie Ajayi Jones is known for her trademark wit, warmth, and perpetual truth-telling. But even she's been challenged by the enem From the New York Times bestselling author of I'm Judging You, a hilarious and transformational book about how to tackle fear--that everlasting hater--and audaciously step into lives, careers, and legacies that go beyond even our wildest dreams. Luvvie Ajayi Jones is known for her trademark wit, warmth, and perpetual truth-telling. But even she's been challenged by the enemy of progress known as fear. She was once afraid to call herself a writer, and nearly skipped out on doing a TED talk that changed her life because of imposter syndrome. As she shares in Professional Troublemaker, she's not alone. We're all afraid. We're afraid of asking for what we want because we're afraid of hearing "no". We're afraid of being different, of being too much or not enough. We're afraid of leaving behind the known for the unknown. But in order to do the things that will truly, meaningfully change our lives, we have to become professional troublemakers: people who are committed to not letting fear talk them out of the things they need to do or say to live free. With humor and honesty, and guided by the influence of her professional troublemaking Nigerian grandmother, Funmilayo Faloyin, Luvvie walks us through what we must get right within ourselves before we can do the things that scare us; how to use our voice for a greater good; and how to put movement to the voice we've been silencing--because truth-telling is a muscle. The point is not to be fearless, but to know we are afraid and charge forward regardless. It is to recognize that the things we must do are more significant than our fears. This book is about how to live boldly in spite of all the reasons we have to cower. Let's go!


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From the New York Times bestselling author of I'm Judging You, a hilarious and transformational book about how to tackle fear--that everlasting hater--and audaciously step into lives, careers, and legacies that go beyond even our wildest dreams. Luvvie Ajayi Jones is known for her trademark wit, warmth, and perpetual truth-telling. But even she's been challenged by the enem From the New York Times bestselling author of I'm Judging You, a hilarious and transformational book about how to tackle fear--that everlasting hater--and audaciously step into lives, careers, and legacies that go beyond even our wildest dreams. Luvvie Ajayi Jones is known for her trademark wit, warmth, and perpetual truth-telling. But even she's been challenged by the enemy of progress known as fear. She was once afraid to call herself a writer, and nearly skipped out on doing a TED talk that changed her life because of imposter syndrome. As she shares in Professional Troublemaker, she's not alone. We're all afraid. We're afraid of asking for what we want because we're afraid of hearing "no". We're afraid of being different, of being too much or not enough. We're afraid of leaving behind the known for the unknown. But in order to do the things that will truly, meaningfully change our lives, we have to become professional troublemakers: people who are committed to not letting fear talk them out of the things they need to do or say to live free. With humor and honesty, and guided by the influence of her professional troublemaking Nigerian grandmother, Funmilayo Faloyin, Luvvie walks us through what we must get right within ourselves before we can do the things that scare us; how to use our voice for a greater good; and how to put movement to the voice we've been silencing--because truth-telling is a muscle. The point is not to be fearless, but to know we are afraid and charge forward regardless. It is to recognize that the things we must do are more significant than our fears. This book is about how to live boldly in spite of all the reasons we have to cower. Let's go!

30 review for Professional Troublemaker: The Fear-Fighter Manual

  1. 4 out of 5

    Jenny Lawson

    This book is a comfort and a challenge.  It inspires, encourages and heartens, which is something I needed at the moment.

  2. 5 out of 5

    Dawn Stahl

    I'm a fan of Luvvie's online presence, her now-famous TED talk, and her first book, so I had high expectations for this one. In it, she takes on a common enemy of personal progress — that plays-dirty voice in your head called "fear." Using common sense and uncommon wit, therapy-style wisdom, the inspiration of her Nigerian grandmother, and her own lived experience, Luvvie shows you how to side-eye the fear right out of your head so you can put action to intention and live your best life. Unfortu I'm a fan of Luvvie's online presence, her now-famous TED talk, and her first book, so I had high expectations for this one. In it, she takes on a common enemy of personal progress — that plays-dirty voice in your head called "fear." Using common sense and uncommon wit, therapy-style wisdom, the inspiration of her Nigerian grandmother, and her own lived experience, Luvvie shows you how to side-eye the fear right out of your head so you can put action to intention and live your best life. Unfortunately, it all fell just a little short for me. Luvvie's perspective and certainly her relationship with and the inspiration she draws from her grandmother are unique and powerful but the overall messaging here felt fairly basic and the content felt a little stretched and repetitive. Your mileage may vary, of course. This is the kind of book for which previous experience and exposure are key. I could definitely see it being a great graduation gift or be a powerful boost for a young professional.

  3. 4 out of 5

    Folio Review

    Luvvie Ajayi-Jones’ Fear-Fighter Manual seems to be written by an amateur troublemaker, not a professional one – unlike what the book proclaims. Reading this book was a chore, I had to force myself to finish it. It was an unpleasant surprise to tread through a half-baked memoir disguising as a self-help book, especially because Luvvie’s first book, I’m Judging You: The Do-Better Manual, was so good! To be fair, The Fear-Fighter Manual might have made for a good debut book; the many trips down memo Luvvie Ajayi-Jones’ Fear-Fighter Manual seems to be written by an amateur troublemaker, not a professional one – unlike what the book proclaims. Reading this book was a chore, I had to force myself to finish it. It was an unpleasant surprise to tread through a half-baked memoir disguising as a self-help book, especially because Luvvie’s first book, I’m Judging You: The Do-Better Manual, was so good! To be fair, The Fear-Fighter Manual might have made for a good debut book; the many trips down memory lane, anecdotes and personal stories would be forgiven in a debut book. However, since Luvvie already has a debut book and this is a sequel to it, it’s hard to overlook the quirks that would have made a first book cute. In her recent book, Ajayi advises her readers to, “Write like nobody’s reading, it’s going to come out in the truest way possible because there’s no agenda.” But, considering that her book reads more like a memoir than a guide, it appears pretentious, something with an agenda to keep the naysayers at bay. Is Luvvie taking her own advice or does she need it more than her readers? Throughout the book, Ajayi-Jones sounded defensive; like she’s trying to explain her actions to an unseen group of people she alone is aware of. Her signature sarcasm is missing, making the authenticity of her “side-eye” lacklustre. To new readers, it might seem like she got it all right, but the difference will be clear when they read I’m Judging You: The Do-Better Manual, and compare it to Professional Troublemaker: The Fear-Fighter Manual. Luvvie’s Fear-Fighter Manual brings nothing new to the table. It’s like every other self-help book that exists without a unique angle. It not only repeats itself, but it also echoes others. Of course, I enjoyed some parts of the book. Stories about Grandma Fáloyin, Luvvie’s Maternal Grandmother, were fun highlights and a great reprieve from some circus performance shenanigans in other parts of the book. That’s the same way I felt about reading Shonda Rhimes speeches in Year of Yes, even though I didn’t like that book. Some nice quotes like, “Dreaming big is in itself a privilege,” also enlivened The Fear-Fighter Manual somewhat; if you ignore the fact that they are truths we all know and have heard in one place or another. Overall, the only thing that kept me going while reading the book was the unique story about Grandma Fáloyin and little home truths. In fact, I believe that her first book would have done a better job as a fear-fighter manual than this one. I also believe that this book would have stood a better chance if it was tagged as a memoir. If you’re looking for books that will help you fight fear, here are a few recommendations: Ask for It (Linda Babcock, Sara Laschever) How to Go From Where You Are to Where You Want to Be (Jack Canfield) The Gifts of Imperfection (Brené Brown) The Subtle Art of Not Giving a Fuck (Mark Manson) I’m Judging You: The Do Better Manual (Luvvie Ajayi) The Aladdin Factor (Jack Canfield, Mark Victor Hansen) Keep Going (Austin Kleon) *** This review was originally posted on https://folioreview.wordpress.com

  4. 4 out of 5

    Lola Åkerström

    UPDATE - Finally finished the audio book and phew, I needed all of that coursing through my veins. The chapter on "Get a Nigerian Friend" took me out. Haaa, the privilege and joy to be Yoruba :) ---------------------------------------- I'm currently 10% into the audio book and this is already a solid 5-stars from me! As a Nigerian woman who is also Yoruba, this is everything. EVERYTHING! Excellent soundbites, tons of quotes to scribble down and hold close to your heart. Do yourself a favor and get UPDATE - Finally finished the audio book and phew, I needed all of that coursing through my veins. The chapter on "Get a Nigerian Friend" took me out. Haaa, the privilege and joy to be Yoruba :) ---------------------------------------- I'm currently 10% into the audio book and this is already a solid 5-stars from me! As a Nigerian woman who is also Yoruba, this is everything. EVERYTHING! Excellent soundbites, tons of quotes to scribble down and hold close to your heart. Do yourself a favor and get the audio version with Luvvie reading herself!

  5. 4 out of 5

    Lou

    Professional Troublemaker: The Fear-Fighter Manual serves up life-changing, transformational tips on how to conquer fear and live your best life. With her uniquely funny and bright style, Jones delves into the topic of fear in order to embolden readers to confront imposter syndrome, engage in truth-telling, and embrace their inner troublemaker in order to become their most authentic self. This way of thinking allows us to "audaciously step into lives, careers and legacies that go beyond even our Professional Troublemaker: The Fear-Fighter Manual serves up life-changing, transformational tips on how to conquer fear and live your best life. With her uniquely funny and bright style, Jones delves into the topic of fear in order to embolden readers to confront imposter syndrome, engage in truth-telling, and embrace their inner troublemaker in order to become their most authentic self. This way of thinking allows us to "audaciously step into lives, careers and legacies that go beyond even our wildest dreams". Split into three distinct sections—Be, encourages us to be introspective initially to assess and work on internal issues; Say, encourages us to speak out about issues truthfully and openly for the greater good; and Do, in which we are encouraged to progress on to tangible movements rather than mere words to make an even bigger difference. A strong sense of identity is the underpinning aspect of her strategy and the exercises provided throughout the book aim to help readers with self-expression (such as listing one's values and goals), how to maximise your core values and the importance of self-exploration, empowerment and clarity of thinking. I loved the interspersing of personal anecdotes throughout the narrative of little life lessons she had learned from her Nigerian grandmother, the vividly portrayed Funmilayo Faloyinm who she clearly has very much taken after. This is an insightful, thought-provoking personal growth tool on the importance of speaking up for yourself and throughout Jones presses us to embrace and celebrate our accomplishments and strive to achieve in whatever areas our hearts desire. She uses examples of her own episodes of impulsiveness to neatly illustrate how they can be turned from mistakes or failures into learning experiences by taking the lesson and running with it, owning your own behavioural faux pas and being independent, fierce and fantastic. Luvvie is a guru to her fans, who love her unique brand of empowering truth talk, and it’s not hard to see why. Her infectious energy jumps off the page and this book can’t help but put a smile on your face and make you stand that bit taller. It's a powerful and indispensable no-nonsense guide to facing your fears head-on and it could hardly have come at a more fitting time—the middle of a pandemic in which much of the population are understandably paralysed with fear and anxiety. Bold, enlightening and endlessly witty, Jones instils the courage in you to be your true, unapologetic self. As Jones states in her own words, "the point is not to be fearless. It is to know we are afraid and to charge forward regardless, to recognise the things we must do are more significant than the things we are afraid to do. This book shows you how I’ve done it, and how you can, too." Highly recommended.

  6. 5 out of 5

    Jenny

    I needed this pep talk from Luvvie. This was a clutch listen every morning as I got ready for work and psyched myself up for the challenges of the day.

  7. 5 out of 5

    Chinenye Onyejiakor

    Dear Reader, don’t waste your time and money on this book. Luvie, You don’t write a book based off of the lies you chose to believe and spread about a country you don’t even live in. This book is an evident story of the extent people like you are willing to go to become whatever, at the expense of Nigerians you don’t care about. This book is full of lies and depicts how nonNigerian you are. You really didn’t have to publish a thirsty ass book to support your illusions of “funny” Nigerians, meanwh Dear Reader, don’t waste your time and money on this book. Luvie, You don’t write a book based off of the lies you chose to believe and spread about a country you don’t even live in. This book is an evident story of the extent people like you are willing to go to become whatever, at the expense of Nigerians you don’t care about. This book is full of lies and depicts how nonNigerian you are. You really didn’t have to publish a thirsty ass book to support your illusions of “funny” Nigerians, meanwhile you are only out to make money off of the white people and nonNigerians you are entertaining.

  8. 5 out of 5

    Venessa ✨

    a bit of a chore the get thru... it was repetitive and the premise as muddled (is this a book about disrupting systems? a self-help book? a memoir? a biography about her grandmother?)

  9. 4 out of 5

    Melanna

    I love to aim for personal growth. So I enjoy reading books on the subject. I generally have a bone to pick with what I call “mommy bloggers” who use their life to say “look I did it so can you.” (Think of a certain person who needs to apologize and someone else who thinks she isn’t tamed). So when I started this book I feared it would be that. It’s not that. First Luvvie is educated in her field so that gives her more clout than many. Second, though she does use examples from her life, she actu I love to aim for personal growth. So I enjoy reading books on the subject. I generally have a bone to pick with what I call “mommy bloggers” who use their life to say “look I did it so can you.” (Think of a certain person who needs to apologize and someone else who thinks she isn’t tamed). So when I started this book I feared it would be that. It’s not that. First Luvvie is educated in her field so that gives her more clout than many. Second, though she does use examples from her life, she actually uses people she knows more than herself. Which I appreciated. And she is always quick to acknowledge her privilege. There is no doubt in my mind that Luvvie is an enneagram 8. I felt like I was reading my opinions off the page. Which also means she didn’t have much to tell me that was new (but shout out for using the phrase “fluorescent beige.” This will be my new descriptor of anything bland). I do feel like this is the book I will hand to my friends when I get tired of telling them to speak up, stand up, Just say what you mean. Luvvie makes all the points. She gives the why or various scenarios. I wish I could purchase chapters to hand to people. Instead I will opt for sticky note book marks on all the pages they need to read. 😂 If you need to grow in areas of standing up for yourself, speaking out about things, I recommend this book.

  10. 4 out of 5

    Taiwo

    I was gifted this book so very much had zero/low expectations but had seen the book mentioned positively in a few online communities for Black women so was optimistic. I was quite annoyed by the ‘Amercianisms’ in this book e.g. ‘UGLASS’ instead of ‘ugly ass’ and other turn of phrases. I was not familiar with Ajayi’s work (except from the Scandal recaps lol) before this, so blame my initial annoyance on this. About a quarter of the way through, I found myself really enjoying this book and what Aja I was gifted this book so very much had zero/low expectations but had seen the book mentioned positively in a few online communities for Black women so was optimistic. I was quite annoyed by the ‘Amercianisms’ in this book e.g. ‘UGLASS’ instead of ‘ugly ass’ and other turn of phrases. I was not familiar with Ajayi’s work (except from the Scandal recaps lol) before this, so blame my initial annoyance on this. About a quarter of the way through, I found myself really enjoying this book and what Ajayi had to say. I liked how she used experiences in her life to develop her point/call to action to fight fear and also her discussion of aspects of Yoruba culture like oriki. Ajayi is also quite funny so found myself consistently suppressing a smirk. I also liked her description of the labour forced upon Black women as working on a group project and being the one that has to do the extra work to make sure that the group succeeds. The chapters about getting paid your worth and finding your tribe were really notable and can see myself returning to them in the future.

  11. 5 out of 5

    Mumbi Shokey

    I listened to this on audible because I loved ‘I’m judging you’ and always enjoy her Spotify podcast (Jesus and Jollof).All I can say is that Luvvie reminds us to feel the fear and do it anyway .Luvvie’s personality shines through everything she touches ,so this was no disappointment at all 😊Super inspirational !

  12. 4 out of 5

    Anna

    Fantastic audiobook. I love her truth and hope I remember to put her words into action!

  13. 4 out of 5

    Amy Ebling

    Definitely a manual to have in hand for a while! Especially being in a white-male dominated Industry that has conditioned women to not speak for themselves, or speak up for themselves.

  14. 4 out of 5

    Anne Marie

    Like getting soul wisdom from your best girlfriend

  15. 5 out of 5

    Bimpe Abimbola

    I like the way Luvvie wrote this book- wit, infused with eloquence and humor, which made this an easy, enjoyable read. She also addressed many truths about facing our fears, owning your greatness, “having a voice” and embracing growth and the lessons that come in the process.

  16. 5 out of 5

    Nicole

    3.5 out of 5 stars. A great confidence builder and fear fighter. Professional Troublemaker was good. I liked it, and some chapters resonated well, but it started to drag near the end of the book. The book provides a good boost of reality in a positive way. Know yourself [A lot of fear-fighting and professional troublemaking is confronting things that will knock us off our square. Things that will slap us into dizziness and make us forget everything we know is real. We need solid feet, rooted in som 3.5 out of 5 stars. A great confidence builder and fear fighter. Professional Troublemaker was good. I liked it, and some chapters resonated well, but it started to drag near the end of the book. The book provides a good boost of reality in a positive way. Know yourself [A lot of fear-fighting and professional troublemaking is confronting things that will knock us off our square. Things that will slap us into dizziness and make us forget everything we know is real. We need solid feet, rooted in something strong to continue to stand. Knowing ourselves is important because it provides that foundation for us. It doesn't allow anyone or anything to tell us who we are. Because when people tell us how amazing we are, that's good to absorb. But what about when someone tells us we aren't worthy? Or we don't have value? Or we don't deserve kindness and love? Or that we deserve paper cuts? To know thyself is to not take all the praise to head or take all the shaming to heart. To know thyself is to know your core, and for me, to know your core is to feel rooted in something outside of myself.] Be Too Much [Whatever it is that people think we are TOO much of comes in handy when it benefits others. However, when it stops being of service to folks' lives and starts making them feel uncomfortable, that is when it becomes something we should stop. This reaction tells me our TOO MUCHness is clearly useful. That thing that we are too much of is our superpower, and we should wield it with pride. The person who is considered TOO sensitive is probably someone with a high emotional IQ. They're in tune with how people are feeling, allowing them to detect when a situation will have emotional consequences. They're often really thoughtful about how they speak to other people, and they are the calm in the storms. On trips, they're the ones who help meditate fights when everyone gets on each other's nerves. The person who is TOO uptight is probably the one who is great at organizing the group trip. They'll make sure when everyone lands, they'll have transportation and the hotel. They will also make sure the itinerary is set and ready to go. That type A-ness is extra useful for a project manager. The person who is TOO turnt is the one you end up on adventures with on the trip. Their spontaneous spirit means you will be sure to get into some fun shenanigans that you will never forget. We'll you hope that you all don't get arrested in a foreign country.] Trust Where You Are [We often talk about fear of failure, but fear of success is just as real, if not more so. A lot of times, we know we have exactly what it takes to get what we want or see our dreams realized, but it scares us to think of how limitless our lives can really be. Maybe we're scared by the possibility of living up to whatever excellence we achieve. Maybe we're unsure that if we taste success, we'll be able to sustain it. Or maybe we worry we can't handle what comes with it. What would it mean for us? My fear of success is certainly real, because I know that new levels bring new devils. Oftentimes, that's what I'm truly afraid of, even more than the failure part. A lot of this worry comes from imposter syndrome: questioning whether we deserve whatever the opportunities are, which leads us to talking ourselves out of winning before we even get into the race. Why are we so afraid of what could be that we never give ourselves a chance to soar?] The book is encouraging and provides practical advice applicable for everyone for all stages of career and life. The author shares great insights and wisdom.

  17. 4 out of 5

    Chasity R

    I don’t just give out 5 stars. You have to be a great book for me to even consider 5 stars. Luvvie makes you feel like she’s your best home girl/mentor in this book. Sharing thoughtful guidance and uplifting messages. This is one book that I’ll be gifting to my friends and loved ones because it written in a way that is relatable. So many lightbulb moments. The one area I think people will either love or hate is her use of her self-created slang. For the most part it didn’t bother me but it almos I don’t just give out 5 stars. You have to be a great book for me to even consider 5 stars. Luvvie makes you feel like she’s your best home girl/mentor in this book. Sharing thoughtful guidance and uplifting messages. This is one book that I’ll be gifting to my friends and loved ones because it written in a way that is relatable. So many lightbulb moments. The one area I think people will either love or hate is her use of her self-created slang. For the most part it didn’t bother me but it almost deterred me from picking this book up because I wasn’t a big fan of her first book. But this book was a major improvement.

  18. 5 out of 5

    Batgirl13

    This book is inspiring. As someone who has often been afraid recently, this was just the thing I needed to pick up when I did. I figured since Jenny Lawson and Elizabeth Gilbert were both recommending it highly, it would be awesome, and it was. I'm excited the author has other books and they are definitely going on my to-read list. Luvvie starts the book telling you to figure out and understand where you come from and what you stand for and then learn to trust in those things and honor them. I a This book is inspiring. As someone who has often been afraid recently, this was just the thing I needed to pick up when I did. I figured since Jenny Lawson and Elizabeth Gilbert were both recommending it highly, it would be awesome, and it was. I'm excited the author has other books and they are definitely going on my to-read list. Luvvie starts the book telling you to figure out and understand where you come from and what you stand for and then learn to trust in those things and honor them. I am still working on my "oriki", but it seems like a very good Nigerian tradition/thought exercise to help you remember who you are. She then talks about all the things you can say and do to move past fear in your life. Her voice is like a good friend helping you along and telling you what you need to hear even if you don't want to listen sometimes. At one point when she was talking about feeling imposter syndrome, she asked the question "Why NOT you?" and that has really stuck with me. I may not feel like the most qualified person, but I have something that helped someone else or that they noticed and I'll work hard to go after whatever it is that needs done. This is one that I need to own so I can reference it when trying to push past all the scary things in life. Her faith in herself, God, and her family is so refreshing to witness. I highly recommend picking this one up. A couple of my favorites quotes from the book: p.25 "If you are too big, then it's a reflection that the place you're in is too small for you. It isn't your job to get smaller to fit there, but to find a place that is bigger than you so you can take up all the space you want and grow infinitely. Anyplace that demands you shrink is a place that will suffocate your spirit and leave you gasping for air. Who wins? Not you. Not anyone, really, because the version of you they will get is the diet, fake-sugar, stevia version that probably has a bad aftertaste. They might THINK that's a great version because you're so dope that even you at half capacity is more on point than you expect. BUT they don't get the you who is free to show up and be your best, because you are spending time trying to be representative of whatever they think is palatable. And that constant shrinking and dwindling is how giants get locked in cages. You don't belong in a cage simply because it's where others want you to be." p.268 "How free would we be if we weren't being tethered down by other people's anxieties, doubts, and insecurities? How high could we fly if people weren't pulling at our ankles to keep us grounded to earth because that's where they are? You deserve to be free of other people's weight. You deserve to be unbuckled from other people's doubts. You carry enough of your own. We all deserve to walk light. When people try to drop their bags of fears at our feet, let us drop-kick the bag back to them. We don't want it. I'm not holding your doubts. I'm not making space in MY LIFE for YOUR angst. I will not sleep under a blanket of your dread. It's not mine to carry. No thank you."

  19. 4 out of 5

    Sawdah Jaulim

    Professional Troublemaker by Luvvie Ajayi Jones This is my favourite book of 2021!!! Luvvie is like the big sister one needs in life. She is bada$$ and takes no Sh#t. She provides a blanket of comfort and support for this time of needs. I bumped into this book after her 2017 TEDtalk - Get Comfortable With Being Uncomfortable. Oh. The. Grace! How to be a professional Troublemaker BE – SAY – DO! and do not fear. Or fear but go ahead anyway. Because you are so worth it. She says: ‘While a Professional Professional Troublemaker by Luvvie Ajayi Jones This is my favourite book of 2021!!! Luvvie is like the big sister one needs in life. She is bada$$ and takes no Sh#t. She provides a blanket of comfort and support for this time of needs. I bumped into this book after her 2017 TEDtalk - Get Comfortable With Being Uncomfortable. Oh. The. Grace! How to be a professional Troublemaker BE – SAY – DO! and do not fear. Or fear but go ahead anyway. Because you are so worth it. She says: ‘While a Professional Troublemaker isn’t someone who manufactures chaos and crises, they do understand that chaos can come from being honest and authentic and going against the tide.” How to do that? Well, she talks a lot about being and asserting your TOOmuchness. She says: ‘We err on the side of humility to our detriment. Do. Not. Shrink. We’ve had so much practice shrinking ourselves and trying to make ourselves smaller that when it’s time for us to take up space we do no know how... who are we helping by being muted versions of ourselves?” BE – SAY – DO! Write your life statement mission. How? Use the Game of Thrones method. AAAHHH! Who are you? Who are your tribe? What do you stand for? What do you want to do to get to the throne? Be as authentic as you can be with yourself, she says and work on that. Because ‘when there is no enemy within, the enemy outside can do you no harm.’ Another thing that made my jaw drop when reading the book was the positive racism within. Omg. Those capitalist white dudes took a heavy toll. Her boldness is priceless. “The audacity of unshackled white men is massive. The system that white men created, designed and profit from, that makes the rest of us afraid of our own shadow while they step on our backs, is well done, ain’t it? It works so well. We need the same nerve and rashness to dare to think these things are possible too, even when we know that we might need to be four times as good, three times as qualified, and twice as professional to get what they will have handed to them when they walk into a room in their cargo shorts. So, i say with caveat and without naivete: Dreaming big is in itself a privilege. However, I’m asking us to trick ourselves into thinking we HAVE the privilege to think big.” Do you hear Olivia Pope talking? Well, you should. Imagine how dope she is, she recaps Scandal episode on her blog!!! You think this is bold... now think again. She challenges Michelle Obama’s most trending quote, ‘When they go low we go high’. SHE. DOES. NOT. AGREE. She explains this part during the immigrate isolation in America when ‘the walking cheetos’ announced he is closing the borders. NO. She says, we do not go high because ain’t half the country is understanding niceness, WE. GO. AS. WILD. And makes us heard. The next best thing is quoting, Maya Angelou, Khalil Gribran, Palms 61 aaaannnnddd Allah. Like literally. This is Dope. READ IT!!! READ IT NOW.

  20. 5 out of 5

    Jill Celeste

    I knew as soon as Luvvie Ajayi Jones announced the release of her new book, Professional Troublemaker, I had to get my hands on it. Any book subtitled The Fear-Fighting Manual is for me! I preordered the book as soon as I could, and I cleared my calendar to read it. As always, Luvvie never disappoints. Dedicated to the memory of her grandmother (and the “good trouble” she caused), Professional Troublemaker shares truth bombs about how we must move through our fears to accomplish what we want in li I knew as soon as Luvvie Ajayi Jones announced the release of her new book, Professional Troublemaker, I had to get my hands on it. Any book subtitled The Fear-Fighting Manual is for me! I preordered the book as soon as I could, and I cleared my calendar to read it. As always, Luvvie never disappoints. Dedicated to the memory of her grandmother (and the “good trouble” she caused), Professional Troublemaker shares truth bombs about how we must move through our fears to accomplish what we want in life. The book is divided into three parts: 1. Be – how to work through the internal stuff so you can move forward, despite your fears 2. Say – how to advocate for yourself and others using your voice, even if it trembles 3. Do – how to do the things that scare the crap out of you Luvvie sprinkles in stories about her grandmother, as well as her own life, to illustrate how one can bust through fear (and why it’s important to do so). I think you’ll love Luvvie’s humorous approach, side-eyes, and tell-it-like-it-is style. I know I did. My big takeaways: #1: “We fear having too much hope.” Right there on page 43, Luvvie dropped a truth bomb, which felt like a 2x4 to my forehead: “When we are afraid of having too much hope, we’re actually afraid of being disappointed.” Damn, she’s right. I don’t dream big enough. Or at least I didn’t use to. Now I dream of being a New York Times bestselling author. I am not focused on disappointment; I am focused on my dream. For even if I never make that bestseller status, I know I tried. And that’s worth the journey. #2: You will fuck up on your journey. I don’t like to fail. I have come a long way in reframing failures as lessons, but a big part of me still fears failure. Luvvie shared a story of how she failed miserably – and very publicly – and how this one failure stopped her from growing and sharing her gifts. I appreciate her story because it’s one I fear I may go through. Well, guess what? It’s inevitable I will fail loudly too, so instead of avoiding it, maybe I should just accept it and move on. How about you? Can you stop avoiding failure? Can you accept that you will make mistakes on your journey? How Professional Troublemaker relates to entrepreneurs: Luvvie is an entrepreneur, and every lesson in this book will help entrepreneurs. Professional Troublemaker can be your primer on how to do things, despite the fear. Because if you want to succeed in your business, you will have to do things that scare the shit out of you. If you need someone to cheer you on and to show you how it’s done, grab Professional Troublemaker.

  21. 4 out of 5

    Larka Fenrir

    This book is a middle finger up to fear And this is pretty much all there is to say about it: author Luvvie Ajayi Jones, respected blogger and motivational speaker, which in her previous book I'm Judging You: The Do-Better Manual talks about the importance of standing up and taking the lead for a better world, inspires us to conquer fear in her second book. Maybe someone already knows her for the already mentioned blog or for the TEDtalk the changed her career Get Comfortable with Being This book is a middle finger up to fear And this is pretty much all there is to say about it: author Luvvie Ajayi Jones, respected blogger and motivational speaker, which in her previous book I'm Judging You: The Do-Better Manual talks about the importance of standing up and taking the lead for a better world, inspires us to conquer fear in her second book. Maybe someone already knows her for the already mentioned blog or for the TEDtalk the changed her career Get Comfortable with Being Uncomfortable if not from his publications, but I personally didn't know anything about this author until now. This being said, it will be no reason at all not to go on and follow her, catching up with his first best seller: with her colloquial style, Luvvie talks us into a world in which fear will be always present as evolutionary drive, but it can be tamed for a better world. Guiding as through a series of themed chapter, she peppers her talks with first hand experiences, both successful and otherwise, and memories of her life and her love ones' as boosters. This book is a good dose of tough love, in which Luvvie doesn't deny the challenges we're bound to face for a better future, but she also give us the tools and her understanding to make that first, fundamental first step. I think it is important that we know what our problems are, and that we create the world we prefer to live in. Rating: ★★★★ Other books by the author • I'm Judging You: The Do-Better Manual Other ispirational books • Unfu*k Yourself: Get Out of Your Head and Into Your Life • Do the Work: The Official Unrepentant, Ass-Kicking, No-Kidding, Change-Your Life Sidekick to Unfu*k Yourself • Stop Doing That Sh*t: End Self-Sabotage and Demand Your Life Back • On Writing: A Memoir of the Craft ~ for writers • The Fox and the Star ~ fiction • Eat Pray Love: One Woman's Search for Everything Across Italy, India and Indonesia ~ memoir

  22. 4 out of 5

    smalltownbookmom

    Another example of a book coming to you at the moment you need to read it most! A great self-empowering book urging women to go for what you want and not let fear of failure get in your way. It's okay to be afraid of change but don't let it stop you! Very much in the style of Brene Brown or Jen Sincero. Major takeaway chapters for me were "Dream audaciously," "Own your dopeness" and "Ask for more." I enjoyed hearing how Luvvie struggled with her own success and had to learn how to say no and how Another example of a book coming to you at the moment you need to read it most! A great self-empowering book urging women to go for what you want and not let fear of failure get in your way. It's okay to be afraid of change but don't let it stop you! Very much in the style of Brene Brown or Jen Sincero. Major takeaway chapters for me were "Dream audaciously," "Own your dopeness" and "Ask for more." I enjoyed hearing how Luvvie struggled with her own success and had to learn how to say no and how to value herself and her time. She tried to do it all and found it exhausting and unsustainable. It's easy to encourage people to always say yes but it can be hard to know when to say no, especially for moms! Favorite quotes: "If we do not give ourselves permission to dream, how do we give ourselves permission to thrive?" "Perfection is the enemy of progress and it does not exist. If you're constantly striving for perfection, you'll be so afraid of failing then you won't create that thing because you think it's not good enough." "Ask for what you want, the universe might surprise you and say yes!" "Ask for more because if the fear of disappointment stops you for going for what you want then you are choosing failure in advance. It's a self-fulfilling prophecy." "When you choose to let fear keep you in your comfort zone, you might think that you're avoiding disappointment, but what you're really doing is choosing that path...the no will not kill you but the yes could save you." "A life well-lived is one where you commit to being kind. Where you connect your humanity to that of others and it shows in how you move through the world." "We must keep doing the things that scare us, knowing that what is right is often the opposite of what is easy."

  23. 4 out of 5

    Damien

    I don't normally read self-help books, so maybe I'm the wrong person to be reading this book. But from a neutral standpoint, I can only say that this book was "okay" and give it 2 stars. The good stuff: There are some bits of the book that I think have merit - Dream Audaciously (don't be afraid to dream big and aim big), Trust Where You Are (have confidence in your ability), Get Your Money (don't be afraid to claim what you're worth and ask for more), Grow Wildly (change is good and don't be afrai I don't normally read self-help books, so maybe I'm the wrong person to be reading this book. But from a neutral standpoint, I can only say that this book was "okay" and give it 2 stars. The good stuff: There are some bits of the book that I think have merit - Dream Audaciously (don't be afraid to dream big and aim big), Trust Where You Are (have confidence in your ability), Get Your Money (don't be afraid to claim what you're worth and ask for more), Grow Wildly (change is good and don't be afraid of it), Take No Shit (don't feel you need to be nice to everyone). I liked the sections where we learned about Luvvie's grandmother and her life. The bad stuff: I just felt like the book was written by a high school teenager for a class project. The tone of the book is quite immature - revering 'Queen' Oprah and Beyonce... and Dany Targaryen style Mission Statements? I didn't get it. There's a difference between a casual writing voice, and an immature writing voice. I ended up skim-reading a lot of chapters, because a lot of it felt like word vomit that was never revised or edited. It was just a long off-the-top-of-my-head word spill onto the page. I think that the main ideas in the book could have been condensed into 100 pages easily. I felt like Fail Loudly was just an excuse to apologise again for the Aretha Franklin twitter debacle. I thought the Build A Squad chapter was a ridiculous set of arbitrary friend groupings that was nonsense. Overall? It was okay. I wouldn't recommend the book, but that's not to say people wouldn't take something from it if they picked out certain chapters.

  24. 5 out of 5

    Karen

    This is an insightful, thought-provoking personal growth tool on the importance of speaking up for yourself and throughout Jones presses us to embrace and celebrate our accomplishments and strive to achieve in whatever areas our hearts desire. She uses examples of her own episodes of impulsiveness to neatly illustrate how they can be turned from mistakes or failures into learning experiences by taking the lesson and running with it, owning your own behavioural faux pas and being independent, fie This is an insightful, thought-provoking personal growth tool on the importance of speaking up for yourself and throughout Jones presses us to embrace and celebrate our accomplishments and strive to achieve in whatever areas our hearts desire. She uses examples of her own episodes of impulsiveness to neatly illustrate how they can be turned from mistakes or failures into learning experiences by taking the lesson and running with it, owning your own behavioural faux pas and being independent, fierce and fantastic. Luvvie is a guru to her fans, who love her unique brand of empowering truth talk, and it’s not hard to see why. Her infectious energy jumps off the page and this book can’t help but put a smile on your face and make you stand that bit taller. It's a powerful and indispensable no-nonsense guide to facing your fears head-on and it could hardly have come at a more fitting time—the middle of a pandemic in which much of the population are understandably paralysed with fear and anxiety. Bold, enlightening and endlessly witty, Jones instils the courage in you to be your true, unapologetic self. As Jones states in her own words, "the point is not to be fearless. It is to know we are afraid and to charge forward regardless, to recognise the things we must do are more significant than the things we are afraid to do. This book shows you how I’ve done it, and how you can, too." I highly recommend this book. I would like to thank Netgalley and Quercus for an e ARC of The Fear fighter manual in return for an honest review.

  25. 4 out of 5

    Giselle Edwards

    When I first saw Luvvie Ajayi Jones, it was on TED Talk. I didn't know anything about her past or her blogging career. After seeing her book come up in my feeds, I decided to read it. She received really awesome reviews and her photos command presence—something that can't be looked past. I am learning to be more courageous when it comes to pursuing different avenues of outreach, skill development, and networking. As a woman of color, we are often taught that we need to appear humble and not over When I first saw Luvvie Ajayi Jones, it was on TED Talk. I didn't know anything about her past or her blogging career. After seeing her book come up in my feeds, I decided to read it. She received really awesome reviews and her photos command presence—something that can't be looked past. I am learning to be more courageous when it comes to pursuing different avenues of outreach, skill development, and networking. As a woman of color, we are often taught that we need to appear humble and not overshadow other people—no matter what this means when it comes to our own growth. In all actuality, it's okay to stand up for yourself, 'gas' yourself up, and open yourself up to various opportunities without caring about judgment. You don't get what you don't ask for. Many women(especially women of color) are afraid to ask for what our counterparts are already getting. Crazy, right? The part that I will be working on improving the most is developing friendships with the right people and knowing each circle serves a different purpose in my life. This woman needs inspiration from various resources. May the universe and my own work bring these people into my life! Overall, this is a really good book with life lessons from her career, personal life, childhood, and the strength of her Nigerian grandmother not being afraid to break the mold of what was perceived as the typical woman from her tribe. She stood up for herself and paved the way for her community. She didn't need permission to live life and be the woman she was meant to be. Be fearless!

  26. 5 out of 5

    Tibby (she/her)

    One of my favorite podcasts has an occasional segment called "Get Your Life With Brittany Luse". I feel like, that is the vibe here with Jones' book. She will help you get your life. Luvvie gently but firmly guides you to believe in yourself, advocate for yourself, and basically grow a spine. The book is broken into broad sections and then into chapters that will help you tackle different parts of your growth. The order and process made a lot of sense to me. There were times where, from my persp One of my favorite podcasts has an occasional segment called "Get Your Life With Brittany Luse". I feel like, that is the vibe here with Jones' book. She will help you get your life. Luvvie gently but firmly guides you to believe in yourself, advocate for yourself, and basically grow a spine. The book is broken into broad sections and then into chapters that will help you tackle different parts of your growth. The order and process made a lot of sense to me. There were times where, from my perspective, she started to veer into capitalism a bit much for my taste. But every time I started to get skeptical she addressed it, making the case that we live in this world, not the ideal one I am working to build. Sometimes you just have to make it work for you in the meantime. She's right. And her advice is solid. I will say, she talks a lot about career which I am still mulling over. As someone without a real career and no idea what to do for a career, I didn't quite know what to do about those portions. I think the advice she offers is good, but how do I fit it to my life? I listened to the audiobook of this one, but wish I had had a physical copy to mark up and highlight and flip back to. Jones reads the book herself and I cannot recommend it enough. She's funny and gregarious and while I think her voice probably comes through in the writing, it was amazing to hear her actual voice. All in all, I found the book really uplifting and affirming. Even if I don't use all her advice and I've never met her, I felt like Luvvie's rooting for me.

  27. 4 out of 5

    Andrea

    I'm almost done with this and I don't suspect my opinion will change in the last 80 pages. I have to admit, I'm only family with Luvvie in the most basic of ways in that I know she exists and that people love her. I've never read her previous works and the feedback that stood out to me was from one of my Black friends that isn't, really, a fan. However, the reason she's not a fan is absolutely addressed in this book and I thought it showed a level of self awareness, thoughtfulness, and considera I'm almost done with this and I don't suspect my opinion will change in the last 80 pages. I have to admit, I'm only family with Luvvie in the most basic of ways in that I know she exists and that people love her. I've never read her previous works and the feedback that stood out to me was from one of my Black friends that isn't, really, a fan. However, the reason she's not a fan is absolutely addressed in this book and I thought it showed a level of self awareness, thoughtfulness, and consideration that I admired. The book is really enjoyable in how she writes and I'm glad I chose to read it to form my own opinion, but it's a bit repetitive in the themes and more than a bit privileged in its advice. Yes, the advice can be taken by anyone, anywhere, anytime and she does, sort of, touch on her privilege, but not enough for me to feel like she understands that sometimes circumstances really are outside of a persons control due to the system, socioeconomic issues, etc. So that was a bit of a distraction for me. Overall, however, we can all use some of the advice and building up of ourselves that she gives and recommends. We must ALL be our own loudest cheerleaders! We must all know who we are in order to BE ourselves, know what's important to us, and create lives that we'll be happy to live.

  28. 5 out of 5

    Angie (angieoverbooked)

    I've been anticipating this book by Luvvie Ajayi Jones ever since I read her first book, I'm Judging You, in 2016. Before I even knew the title or topic, it was going to be an auto read. Well, it's here and it's SO good. The best thing I can do is share a few of the endless gems Luvvie drops and if they resonate with you, get the book. 💯😘 💎 Oftentimes, when we want something that doesn't come with a manual, we are afraid of it, because we could lose our way since there's no map. Well, maybe WE a I've been anticipating this book by Luvvie Ajayi Jones ever since I read her first book, I'm Judging You, in 2016. Before I even knew the title or topic, it was going to be an auto read. Well, it's here and it's SO good. The best thing I can do is share a few of the endless gems Luvvie drops and if they resonate with you, get the book. 💯😘 💎 Oftentimes, when we want something that doesn't come with a manual, we are afraid of it, because we could lose our way since there's no map. Well, maybe WE are supposed to draw the map, so someone who comes behind us won't get lost. Create the map you didn't have. 💎 If you are not the truth teller in the room, you can at least be backup for them. If you aren't going to be the first domino, be the second. 💎 Yes, we're afraid of the worst-case scenario happening, but what if the best-case scenario happens? What if we change systems in the rooms that we're in or we change people we come across because we dare to be people who decided to show up and use our necessary voices? 💎 I wonder what would happen if we were given the permission to constantly ask for more, from life and the universe, from relationships, from bosses and colleagues. What might happen when we realize that NO won't kill us but YES could change our lives?

  29. 4 out of 5

    Jess Witkins

    Luvvie Ajayi Jones does not disappoint. No matter what she is doing, she shows up, in her whole self, and tells you how it is! I loved her first book, "I'm Judging You: The Do Better Manual," and it's been a crowd favorite when shared at my library's storytime for adults program. As one of my go-to staff picks, I had to check out her latest book. I would recommend all women pick up "Professional Troublemaker" for the chapter on pay equity and salary negotiation alone! That is full of facts and w Luvvie Ajayi Jones does not disappoint. No matter what she is doing, she shows up, in her whole self, and tells you how it is! I loved her first book, "I'm Judging You: The Do Better Manual," and it's been a crowd favorite when shared at my library's storytime for adults program. As one of my go-to staff picks, I had to check out her latest book. I would recommend all women pick up "Professional Troublemaker" for the chapter on pay equity and salary negotiation alone! That is full of facts and will do more for women and equal pay than I can imagine if we can just get them to read this and be confident enough to ASK FOR MORE MONEY. (Or more time off or benefits or what-have-you, because as Luvvie points out, time is money and there's a whole package to negotiate.) Full of Luvvie's signature side eye and wisdom, this book is a humorous, but passionate, examination of not letting fear dictate your whole life. It's a manifesto and I'm here for it! As Luvvie says in her introduction, "Let's get to it." Thank you to NetGalley and to the Volumes app for an advanced copy and audio version (which is phenom!). Also I pre-ordered this book so I could own my copy and refer back to it - because - GOOD STUFF!

  30. 4 out of 5

    Verity W

    *****Copy from NetGalley in return for an honest review***** So this is a readable and insightful look at the importance of speaking up for yourself and how to navigate that without blowing up your life or reliving your mistakes forever more. This is dedicated to the author's grandmother - a formidable Nigerian woman who overcame substantial obstacles, lived her life as she wanted and spoke out when she thought it was needed. I particularly enjoyed reading about how the author's upbringing - spli *****Copy from NetGalley in return for an honest review***** So this is a readable and insightful look at the importance of speaking up for yourself and how to navigate that without blowing up your life or reliving your mistakes forever more. This is dedicated to the author's grandmother - a formidable Nigerian woman who overcame substantial obstacles, lived her life as she wanted and spoke out when she thought it was needed. I particularly enjoyed reading about how the author's upbringing - split between Nigeria and the US has informed her perspective and the lessons that she has taken from the strong women in her life and the squad she has built around herself. It is quite American-self-help book in tone at times- which is not always my style, but I enjoyed it and found it just on the right side of my personal line for that. I'm not sure how much of this is applicable to my life - but there are some important ideas and lessons here that I will sit with (as the Americans say) and digest and try to use to inform my thinking and behaviour. Also I already couldn't wait to be able to meet up with people in person again, but after all the sections about her friends and squad, that's only got worse!

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